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Lerner, Harriet Goldhor

Overview
Works: 130 works in 628 publications in 16 languages and 21,365 library holdings
Genres: Fiction  Juvenile works  Records and correspondence  Miscellanea  Cross-cultural studies  Abridgments 
Roles: Author, Speaker, Contributor, Narrator
Classifications: HQ1206, 152.4
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Most widely held works by Harriet Goldhor Lerner
The dance of anger : a woman's guide to changing the patterns of intimate relationships by Harriet Goldhor Lerner( Book )

59 editions published between 1981 and 2016 in 5 languages and held by 4,169 WorldCat member libraries worldwide

The Dance of Anger is unique among self-help books, as it offers no false reassurances or shortcuts to change. Rather, it carefully spells out the difficulties women encounter when they begin to use their anger to gain a stronger, and more independent sense of self. This guide helps women to assess not only the risks of continued "stuckness" but also the risks of change. And it offers valuable insights to men as well
The dance of intimacy : a woman's guide to courageous acts of change in key relationships by Harriet Goldhor Lerner( Book )

24 editions published between 1960 and 2014 in English and held by 2,593 WorldCat member libraries worldwide

Points out and discusses problems of intimacy in family and partner relationships with suggestions of steps that can be taken to build solid and respectful relationships
The dance of deception : pretending and truth-telling in women's lives by Harriet Goldhor Lerner( Book )

30 editions published between 1992 and 2014 in English and Dutch and held by 1,715 WorldCat member libraries worldwide

In this fresh, challenging new book, Dr. Lerner invites us to join her in a groundbreaking exploration of the many faces of truth and deception in women's lives. Through examples that are both startlingly intimate and deeply political, Dr. Lerner provides us with bold insights into the countless ways (and whys) that women show the false and hide the real. Deception is not a "woman's problem," or even a uniquely human phenomenon: From viruses to large mammals, deception is continuously at play. We are all affected by lying and faking, by silence and pretending, by self-deception, and by brave - as well as misguided - efforts to tell the truth. Dr. Lerner shows us that women's failure to live authentically and speak truly deserves our closest attention. She illustrates how pretending is so closely linked with femininity that it is, quite simply, what the culture teaches us to do. Truth-telling is the central challenge in women's lives, the foundation of intimacy, self-regard, and joy. At the center of a woman's life is the quest to discover, speak and live her own truth, to cease living a life dictated and defined by others. Yet in the name of "truth" or "being ourselves," we may hurt others by disregarding their different realities and move situations from bad to worse. How can we approach the process of truth-telling, of knowing and being known, of refining and deepening our disclosures to one another? Like peace-making, truthtelling does not just "happen." Sometimes it must be worked toward and planned. Drawing on more than two decades of clinical experience, Dr. Lerner articulates her rich philosophy and thoughtful guidelines about speaking out and holding back. She shows us how honesty can sometimes impede truth-telling and how pretending can be a bold move toward the truth, rather than a misdirected flight from it. She examines how patriarchy shapes what truths a woman can uncover, share, and invent about herself. And she teaches us how to widen the path to truth-telling for everyone. The Dance of Deception is Harriet Lerner's most timely, provocative, and passionate work to date. From sexual faking to family secrets, readers will be rewarded with important insights into how we engage in deception and approach truth-telling - a subject that is at the heart of who we are in the world and what kind of world this is
The dance of connection : how to talk to someone when you're mad, hurt, scared, frustrated, insulted, betrayed, or desperate by Harriet Goldhor Lerner( Book )

8 editions published between 2001 and 2006 in English and held by 1,526 WorldCat member libraries worldwide

How to navigate through difficult relationships in marriage, family, and friendships
Franny B. Kranny, there's a bird in your hair! by Harriet Goldhor Lerner( Book )

13 editions published between 2000 and 2006 in 3 languages and held by 1,157 WorldCat member libraries worldwide

Franny B. Kranny refuses to cut her wild hair, despite her family's insistence, and wears a bird in her hair to a family reunion
Fear and other uninvited guests : tackling the anxiety, fear, and shame that keep us from optimal living and loving by Harriet Goldhor Lerner( Book )

5 editions published in 2004 in English and held by 1,037 WorldCat member libraries worldwide

Examines how fear--and other such uncomfortable emotions as shame and anxiety--becomes a key facor in shaping our lives in a negative fashion and explains how to overcome fear to accomplish our best in love, work, and life
Women in therapy : devaluation, anger, aggression, depression, self-sacrifice, mothering, mother blaming, self-betrayal, sex-role stereotypes, dependency, work and success inhibitions by Harriet Goldhor Lerner( Book )

30 editions published between 1988 and 2009 in 5 languages and held by 930 WorldCat member libraries worldwide

This book is intellectually and beautifully written and is for all women and men who care for and about themselves. Not only for the professional
The mother dance : how children change your life by Harriet Goldhor Lerner( Book )

14 editions published between 1998 and 2006 in English and held by 905 WorldCat member libraries worldwide

The author tells of the basic lessons of motherhood: "that we are not in control of what happens to our children; that most of what we worry about doesn't happen (though bad things happen that we fail to anticipate); and that our children will love us with all of our imperfections if we can do the same for them."--Jacket
Marriage rules : a manual for the married and the coupled up by Harriet Goldhor Lerner( Book )

6 editions published between 2012 and 2013 in English and Dutch and held by 891 WorldCat member libraries worldwide

Presents advice to married couples for maintaining a healthy, respectful, sane, and satisfying relationship with the help of short, easy-to-remember rules for different subjects and situations
Why won't you apologize? : healing big betrayals and everyday hurts by Harriet Goldhor Lerner( Book )

11 editions published between 2016 and 2017 in English and Dutch and held by 557 WorldCat member libraries worldwide

"Renowned psychologist and bestselling author of The Dance of Anger sheds new light on the two most important words in the English language--I'm sorry--and offers a unique perspective on the challenge of healing broken connections and restoring trust. Dr. Harriet Lerner has been studying apologies - and why some people won't give them - for more than two decades. Now she offers compelling stories and solid theory that bring home how much the simple apology matters and what is required for healing when the hurt we've inflicted (or received) is far from simple. Readers will learn how to craft a deeply meaningful - and avoid apologies that only deepen the original injury. Why Won't You Apologize also addresses the compelling needs of the injured party - the one who has been hurt by someone who won't apologize, tell the truth, or feel remorse. Lerner explains what drives both the non-apologizer and the over-apologizer, as well as why the people who do the worst things are the least able to own up. She helps the injured person resist pressure to forgive too easily and challenges the popular notion that forgiveness is the only path to peace of mind. With her trademark humor and wit, Lerner offers a joyful and sanity-saving guide to setting things right,"--Amazon.com
What's so terrible about swallowing an apple seed? by Harriet Goldhor Lerner( Book )

4 editions published between 1995 and 2001 in English and held by 549 WorldCat member libraries worldwide

When Rosie swallows an appleseed, her sister Katie tells her that an apple tree will grow out of her ears
The dance of anger by Harriet Goldhor Lerner( Recording )

24 editions published between 1988 and 2016 in English and held by 526 WorldCat member libraries worldwide

"A woman's guide to changing the patterns of intimate relationships"--Container
The dance of fear : rising above anxiety, fear, and shame to be your best and bravest self by Harriet Goldhor Lerner( Book )

10 editions published between 2004 and 2009 in English and held by 322 WorldCat member libraries worldwide

"'The Dance of Fear' is a transforming book that will teach you to respond to age-old emotions in brave new ways. Whether you suffer from the miserable symptoms of anxiety, or you push fear beneath the surface of your awareness, this book will help you live more fully in the present, and move into the future with courage, clarity, humor, and hope"--Page 4 of cover
The dance of connection : [how to talk to someone when you're mad, hurt, scared, frustrated, insulted, betrayed or desperate] by Harriet Goldhor Lerner( Recording )

13 editions published between 2001 and 2014 in English and held by 221 WorldCat member libraries worldwide

Dr. Lerner broaches the difficult task of communicating with people even when they have caused us pain
The mother dance : how children change your life by Harriet Goldhor Lerner( Recording )

10 editions published between 1998 and 2016 in English and held by 216 WorldCat member libraries worldwide

An original look at the experience of motherhood--from how a woman arrives at the decision to have children, to the empty nest syndrome
La danza de la ira : una guía a la afirmación personal by Harriet Goldhor Lerner( Book )

49 editions published between 1987 and 2008 in 13 languages and held by 215 WorldCat member libraries worldwide

La colère est un signal qu'il faut écouter. Elle nous révèle que nous en faisons trop, que nous donnons plus que de raison ou bien elle nous met en garde. En fait la douleur de la colère nous aide à préserver l'intégrité de notre personnalité
The dance of intimacy by Harriet Goldhor Lerner( Recording )

11 editions published between 1990 and 2004 in English and held by 202 WorldCat member libraries worldwide

"The Dance of Intimacy takes a careful look at relationships where intimacy is most challenged by too much emotional distance, too much intensity, or simply too much pain. In clear, direct and dramatic terms, Dr. Lerner illustrates how we can move differently in these relationships -- be they with a distant or unfaithful spouse, a depressed sister, a difficult mother, an alcoholic father, an uncommitted lover, a dying parent, or an estranged family member. And she teaches us about "the differences that make a difference"--The changes we can make in one or two significant relationships that will affect our capacity for intimacy and selfhood for a lifetime. The Dance of Intimacy offers no "quick fix" for the human dilemma that we all confront. Instead, Dr. Lerner offers us the most solid, respectful, and helpful insights on intimate relationships that both men and women may ever encounter. Picking up where the best-selling The Dance of Anger left off, Dr. Lerner redefines the meaning of intimacy for today, and shows how good relationships can be strengthened and difficult ones healed"--container
Marriage rules : a manual for the married and the coupled up by Harriet Goldhor Lerner( Recording )

7 editions published between 2011 and 2013 in English and held by 195 WorldCat member libraries worldwide

Following a unique format perfect for today's world, Lerner's more than one hundred rules cover the hot spots in long-term relationships
Fear and other uninvited guests : [tackling the anxiety, fear, and shame that keep us from optimal living and loving] by Harriet Goldhor Lerner( Recording )

9 editions published in 2004 in English and held by 178 WorldCat member libraries worldwide

No one signs up for anxiety, fear and shame, but we can't avoid them, either. As we learn to respond to these three key emotions in new ways, we can live more fully and move into the future with courage, clarity, humor, and hope. Fear and Other Uninvited Guests shows us how
The dance of deception by Harriet Goldhor Lerner( Recording )

6 editions published between 1993 and 2004 in English and held by 178 WorldCat member libraries worldwide

Inspires women to confront the many faces of deception in their lives and help them to discover, speak, and live their own truths
 
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The dance of anger : a woman's guide to changing the patterns of intimate relationships
Alternative Names
Goldhor Lerner Harriet

Goldhor Lerner, Harriet 1944-

Harriet Lerner American psychologist

Harriet Lerner Amerikaans pyschologe

Harriet Lerner US-amerikanische Feministin und Psychologin

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Lerner, Harriet 1944-

Lerner, Harriet G.

Lerner, Harriet G. 1944-

Lerner, Harriet Goldher

Lerner, Harriet Goldhor

Lerner, Harriet Goldhor 1944-

לרנר, הארייט

러너, 해리어트 골드허

러너, 해리엇 골드허

ラーナー, ハリエット

レーナー, H. G.

レーナー, ハリエット

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The dance of intimacy : a woman's guide to courageous acts of change in key relationshipsThe dance of deception : pretending and truth-telling in women's livesThe dance of connection : how to talk to someone when you're mad, hurt, scared, frustrated, insulted, betrayed, or desperateFranny B. Kranny, there's a bird in your hair!Fear and other uninvited guests : tackling the anxiety, fear, and shame that keep us from optimal living and lovingWomen in therapy : devaluation, anger, aggression, depression, self-sacrifice, mothering, mother blaming, self-betrayal, sex-role stereotypes, dependency, work and success inhibitionsThe mother dance : how children change your lifeMarriage rules : a manual for the married and the coupled up