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The mindful coach : seven roles for helping people grow

Douglas K. Silsbee
Print Book, English, ©2004
Ivy River Press, Marshall, NC, ©2004
xiv, 321 pages : illustrations ; 23 cm
9780974500348, 9780974500355, 0974500348, 0974500356
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Accompagnement (Psychologie)
Accompagnement de gestionnaires
Counseling
Executive coaching
Exercices spirituels
Personal coaching
Self-actualization (Psychology) Religious aspects Buddhism
Spiritual exercises
counseling
Acknowledgmentsxiii
Introduction1(12)
The Septet Model
4(1)
Language
5(2)
The Structure of the Book
7(6)
PART I Concepts
1: Coaching
13(14)
A Working Definition of Coaching
14(3)
Distinguishing Coaching from Other Professional Activities
17(4)
Table 1: Coaching and Non-Coaching Activities in Three Fields
18(2)
Exercise 1: Defining Coaching for Yourself
20(1)
The Politics of Coaching: Four Dynamics
21(4)
Summary
25(2)
2: Mindfulness
27(28)
The Skandhas
29(3)
Attachment and Aversion
32(5)
Self-Observation and the Cultivation of Mindfulness
37(1)
Conditioning and Habits of Mind
38(13)
Exercise 2.1: The Raisin Meditation
49(2)
Basic Tools for Cultivating Mindfulness
51(3)
Exercise 2.2: A Breathing Meditation
52(2)
Summary
54(1)
3: Service
55(16)
Placing Oneself in Service
56(2)
Staying Mindful and Present
58(4)
Exercise 3: When Are You Most Present?
60(2)
The Coach as Learner
62(2)
Accountability and Professional Ethics
64(3)
Summary
67(4)
PART 2 The Septet
4: Overview
71(14)
Introducing the Septet
72(1)
Stages of Learning
73(2)
An Overview of the Voices
75(5)
Table 4: The Voices and Their Aspects
79(1)
A Sneak Preview of the Model
80(2)
Figure 4: The Septet Coaching Model
81(1)
Using the Model
82(3)
5: The Master
85(20)
The Present Moment
86(1)
The Aspects of the Master
87(13)
Maintaining Self-Awareness (M1)
88(3)
Listening with Focus and Presence (M2)
91(3)
Modeling Learning and Growth (M3)
94(3)
Embracing the Client with Compassion and Respect (M4)
97(2)
Choosing Which of the Operational Voices to Use at a Given Time (M5)
99(1)
Pitfalls and Guidelines
100(2)
Summary
102(3)
6: The Partner
105(16)
Building the Relationship
105(1)
The Aspects of the Partner
106(12)
Establishing and Honoring an Explicit Structure for the Coaching Relationship (P1)
107(7)
Making Explicit, Clear Choices with the Client about the Coaching Process (P2)
114(4)
Pitfalls and Guidelines
118(2)
Summary
120(1)
7: The Investigator
121(16)
Artful Questions
122(2)
The Aspects of the Investigator
124(8)
Asking Questions that Deepen a Client's Understanding of the Situation (11)
125(2)
Helping the Client Articulate Desired Outcomes (12)
127(3)
Asking the Client to Generate Courses of Action (13)
130(2)
Pitfalls and Guidelines
132(2)
Summary
134(3)
8: The Reflector
137(20)
A Rare Invitation
138(1)
The Aspects of the Reflector
138(15)
Providing Direct and Honest Feedback (R1)
139(3)
Directing the Client's Attention Toward His/Her Capabilities and Potential (R2)
142(7)
Encouraging Self-Observation and Reflection (R3)
149(4)
Pitfalls and Guidelines
153(2)
Summary
155(2)
9: The Teacher
157(18)
Coach as Teacher
158(1)
The Aspects of the Teacher
159(12)
Providing "Expert" Information, Tools, and Language (Tl)
160(4)
Challenging and Stimulating Client's Thinking Process (T2)
164(7)
Pitfalls and Guidelines
171(2)
Summary
173(2)
10: The Guide
175(16)
About Time and Impetus
176(2)
The Aspects of the Guide
178(8)
Encouraging the Client to Take Action (G1)
179(1)
Offering Options and/or Recommending Courses of Action (G2)
180(6)
Pitfalls and Guidelines
186(2)
Summary
188(3)
11: The Contractor
191(24)
Who's Doing the Work?
192(1)
The Aspects of the Contractor
193(15)
Establishing Clear Agreements about Actions (Cl)
194(4)
Exploring and Resolving Client Doubts and Hesitations (C2)
198(5)
Following Up with Client about Agreed-Upon Actions (C3)
203(5)
Pitfalls and Guidelines
208(2)
Summary
210(5)
PART 3 Application
12: An Integrated Model of Coaching
215(16)
A Second Look at the Model
216(10)
Intuition and the Flow of Coaching
226(5)
13: Development Strategies for the Coach
231(60)
Preparing the Place
232(2)
Exercise 13.1: Creating a Mindfulness Environment
234(1)
Observing Yourself in Action
234(9)
Exercise 13.2: Questioning and Telling
237(2)
Exercise 13.3: Attachment and Aversion
239(2)
Exercise 13.4: Reviewing Coaching Session Tapes
241(2)
Self-Assessment Tools
243(8)
Exercise 13.5: A Brief Coaching Self-Assessment
244(3)
Exercise 13.6: An On-line Self-Assessment
247(1)
Exercise 13.7: Self-Observation on a Specific Voice or Aspect
248(2)
Exercise 13.8: Constructing a Self-Observation Exercise
250(1)
Navigating the Whole Model
251(8)
Exercise 13.9: The Investigator Aspects
252(2)
Exercise 13.10: Focusing on Questions
254(2)
Exercise 13.11: Observing Your Coaching Flow
256(1)
Exercise 13.12: Observing the Impetus Behind Your Coaching Flow
257(2)
Learning from Your Reflection
259(6)
Exercise 13.13: Recognizing Your Projections
260(2)
Exercise 13.14: Finding Compassion and Acceptance
262(2)
Exercise 13.15: Taking Your Own Advice
264(1)
Obtaining and Listening to Client Feedback
265(7)
Exercise 13.16: Asking for Informal Feedback from Clients
267(1)
Exercise 13.17: On-Line Single-Client Assessment
268(3)
Exercise 13.18: On-Line Multi-Client Assessment
271(1)
Developing Your Weaker Voices
272(3)
Exercise 13.19: Increasing the Use of an Aspect
274(1)
Using Stronger Voices Mindfully
275(2)
Exercise 13.20: Using Stronger Voices Mindfully
276(1)
Making Your Coaching Model Explicit with Your Clients
277(5)
Exercise 13.21: Asking the Client What's Next
280(1)
Exercise 13.22: Discussing Voice Shifts with Clients
281(1)
Planning Your Own Development
282(3)
Exercise 13.23: Creating a Development Plan
284(1)
Practicing Mindfulness
285(6)
14: Toward Mindful Service: A Pathway to Mastery
291(12)
Dependency and Service
293(2)
Strategies for Building Accountability
295(1)
The Nature of Practice
296(1)
The Spirit of Inquiry
297(6)
Notes303(4)
References307(4)
Index311(10)
About the Author321
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